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There really isn't any "right" way to use a vibrator or to bring yourself to orgasm. The most important thing to remember is that a vibrator is a tool to help you stimulate yourself; while it can help you reach a climax, it's not an instant orgasm machine. You control it and use it in the way that feels best to you.
To have the best experience with your vibrator, give yourself some time with it. Before you even switch it on, get relaxed and turned on. Take a bath, read an erotic story, get yourself in the mood. For most women, orgasms are as much psychological as they are physiological. If your mind isn't in the right place, your body won't be, either.
Experiment with your vibrator, try its different features, and apply it to different areas of your body to see what the sensations are like. Most women respond to clitoral stimulation, but you may prefer more or less intensity, or more or less direct stimulation. The labia and vulva are also sensitive.
If your vibrator is insertable, give that a try. Some women find penetration and vibration inside the vagina very pleasurable. A vibrator is the best tool you can use to find and stimulate your G-spot. This little node of pleasure is on the front wall of your vagina, a couple of inches in. It can take a few tries to find this spot, and not everyone who finds it actually likes it because of how sensitive it can be. Some women can't find it at all. All of these things are normal, so you just have to see what works for you.
Many women need clitoral rather than vaginal stimulation to actually bring them to orgasm, so if vaginal penetration with your vibrator isn't getting you off, go back to using the vibrator on your clit. One technique you can use with an smooth insertable vibrator is to place the tip against your clit, then slide the shaft down between your labia, insert the vibrator and slide it into your vagina, and then bring it back up in a reverse stroke, sliding along the clit again on the way up.
If you're a man trying a vibrator, stroke it along the shaft of your penis and hold it against your glans (the head of your cock). If this is too intense, try placing the vibrator at the base of your balls or pressing it against your perineum (the skin between your balls and butt).
Once you discover what feels good, keep doing it, relax, and let your arousal build. If you find that the vibrator brings you to the point of climaxing too quickly, back off and try a less intense form of stimulation, or even use your hand for a while and go back to the vibrator. After you climax, take a break and go for round two, using the vibrator at a lower intensity if you're sensitive. Just because a vibrator can get you off quickly doesn't mean you have to rush yourself.
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